Here are the final three NLP Presuppositions.

If you have only just started reading about the NLP Presuppositions on this blog, that is 15 of the beliefs underlying NLP, I suggest you look at Part 1, Part 2, Part 3 and Part 4 to get the complete picture.

13. The meaning of the communication is the response we get

Have you ever been in conversation with a person and you know that you are not getting through?

That person’s contribution to the conversation is not what you expected to gain resolution of an issue or an understanding of what needs to be done.

Or, have you been in conversation with a group of people and, judging by the comments each one makes, they really have no idea what you are getting at?

It is important to appreciate, that each person is ‘hearing’ what you are saying from their model of the world, filtering parts out that are not congruent with who they are.

They cannot hear or see anything outside of them that isn’t them.

In such instances, it is necessary to chunk down the amount of information you deal with, and have them feed it back to you so that you can ascertain how they have understood you.

You may say that this will take a long time, and there is not always so much time available.

The time invested in making sure that the communication goes the best way possible is worth this time.

Is it better to invest the time in clear, accurate communication at the very outset of a project?

Or, would you rather come to the end of a project and find that there was miscommunication and it needs to be done again, either in part or as a whole.

This is not only an inconvenience financially, but the breakdown in rapport is enormous.

14. The person with the greatest flexibility is in control of any situation

Behavioural flexibility is key in obtaining and maintaining good rapport and achieving win-win outcomes.

Behavioural flexibility breaks deadlocks in negotiations.

Should deadlocks arise, go back to the point at which there was agreement and move forward from there, getting agreement on smaller chunks of proposals.

If everyone stands their ground, a situation will never be amicably solved.

I say amicably because if a person feels that they have given in, the resolution will not be permanent and there will be ill-feeling.

Behavioural flexibility by its very nature tells the other person that you respect their contribution, that you do not think that your way is the only way.

Each of us sees things from our model of the world, and sure, our model of the world is right for us.

The other person’s model of the world is right for them.

If you feel that you definitely know what the best course of action is, there are techniques in rapport building called ‘leading and pacing’ which you can employe to guide the other person to expand their awareness of the subject.

This will assist all concerned to increase their behavioural flexibility and win-win will be the outcome.

15. All procedures are designed to increase choice

Every procedure, process, technique, and induction in NLP is designed to expand your focus.

This expansion of focus leads to expanding your expectations about yourself and your abilities and therefore, leads to expanding the opportunities you see available to you.

Thereby your choices are increased.

Have you ever felt frustrated because you saw no way out of a situation?

Or, you felt you had no choice but to go along with whatever it was?

Once you genuinely believe that you can dip into your quantum soup of pure potentiality whenever you need, you will realize your limitless potential and inner power.

Repeating the saying: You can be, do, have anything you ecologically want.

Start by looking very closely at these 15 NLP Presuppositions and begin to live your life as if they were true.

Because:

What is Truth?

If Truth is something that brings you and others happiness, empowerment, love, joy, respect, trust, sincerity, honesty, peace of mind, friendships, sincerity, tools to deal with all situations, would you embrace that Truth?

I would venture to say, you would.

Then why choose alternative ways of living your life?

Ultimately it is a matter of individual choice.