There is a concept in NLP known as Hypnotic Language Patterns.
When I communicate with someone, I have no desire to hypnotize them.
I want to engage in an empathetic, caring activity with the words I use, and I would expect that back from the other person.
Personally, I am not in favour of the term however, […]

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Your choice of language, which includes your choice of words , is your most important tool in building rapport through your communication.
In actual fact, the words you use, construct the life you lead.
The language you use will either free you or jail you.
Your content is much less important to your personal success in external communication […]

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Matching and mirroring what someone is doing or the style of language a person uses is a very powerful but subtle way to build rapport.
Remember, that when NLP is used with integrity, any of the techniques or skills is based on a positive final outcome.
There is no manipulation, nor is there ever a self-interest motive.
When […]

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Do you realize that you always communicating something even if you are not using words?
When you have well-developed sensory acuity, you are able to notice things that other people cannot notice, even the minutest shifts in a person’s external dispositions.
Even as you notice minute changes from moment to moment, you do not however give any […]

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In the past few postings, we have been looking at the general characteristics of the preferred learning and communication styles all visual, auditory, kinesthetic and auditory digital people.
All this has been building up to you taking the survey, and ascertaining where your preference lies in these categories.
So here you go.  It might be easier if […]

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How did you go with the Eye Movement Patterns of the previous posting?
Do they seem more familiar now?
Within the next couple of postings, I’ll give you a list of some words and word phrases that are common in daily use in all four styles.
So, continuing on.
Click here for the 4.30 minute AUDIO.

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The topics we have discussed so far in rapport building are:
1. Why build Rapport?
2. Sensory Acuity
3. Tonality Patterns
This posting will look at eye movement patterns, also called eye pattern movements, and will be divided into two Parts.
This is a very practical and immediate way of finding out whether the person you are communicating with is visual, auditory or […]

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Tonality in your conversation is actually worth 38% of the content of your message, and has a significant influence on the meaning of your communication and the reactions you will get.
It markedly affects how others will respond to your words and to your message.
What you desire, is that the response will be the one you […]

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The last posting dealt with the general concept of “Why build Rapport?”
With this posting we will start on the various tools that go into building rapport.
The first one is to have sensory acuity.
What does that mean?
If you prefer, listen to the 4.48 minute AUDIO.  I’ve actually added some to the audio as sensory acuity is […]

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In the next series of postings, I will be dealing with the various elements in Rapport building.
There will be topics such as:
• Sensory acuity
• Tonality patterns
• Preferred representational systems
• Eye patterns
• Predicates and predicate phrases
• Communication
• Indicators of rapport
Let’s start with a general look at rapport building.
Here is the 3.50 AUDIO for your convenience.

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